Here are some factual statements:
Most people who enter the real estate business are gone in just a few years. Most real estate agents, who stay in the business, are not very successful. To be in the top 1% of all agents in the U.S. would require about 50 – 60 sales a year. Most agents, who are successful, (50 – 60 sales per year) do not really know why they are successful. They think they know but they are usually wrong.
Only about 25% – 30% of the top 1% of all agents actually know why they are successful and most of those don’t know it very well. So success can seem mysterious or elusive. It needn’t be. If one were to apply the same exactness to the subject of real estate sales that any well trained engineer would apply to his discipline it wouldn’t seem mysterious at all.
But applying that exactness would mean – really – looking, not listening. Look at what people do. Look at how they do it. Exactly. Look at what results they get from doing it. It makes little to no difference what they think is causing their stats to rise. What is causing their stats to rise? Anyone who says he (or she) knows why they are successful would be able to teach it – and teach it in such a simple manner that the other person could apply what was being taught and get a similar result. There would be no special cases, no exceptions. Not if a scientific approach was being used. Anyone who knew why they were successful would be able to increase their level of success. If they could not do that one thing then what they are thinking is the "reason" isn’t the real reason for the success they have had. That last one is so obvious it is usually missed. Is there really any "highly successful" person who left real estate sales so they could teach it? Even one?
There are few subjects on earth (possible exceptions are mathematics, physics, chemistry, etc. – and the other so-called "exact sciences" – that don’t just reek with false data. The subjects of sales and marketing (those are two different subjects, by the way) have so much asinine, stupid and unworkable gibberish being pawned off as "the way to do things" that it is a minor miracle anyone who actually studies either of those subjects ever succeeds at all. Just as an example, about 20 years ago it was validated that, in some fields, women who were trained by male sales managers did not do nearly as well as women salespeople who had no sales training of any kind. Amazing. The "sales training" had an actual negative value. This is just one example. So the thing to do is: LOOK, DON’T LISTEN. I don’t care what someone says they are doing to bring about sales results (and highly successful real estate sales people will sometimes actually invent things to tell others because it "sounds better" than what they are actually doing).
There was a scale developed many years ago (originator is uncertain) that has been altered (for the worse, in my opinion) from what I learned in 1971.
From the bottom up, the original scale went:
1. Unconsciously incompetent. Doesn’t know and doesn’t know he doesn’t know.
2. Consciously incompetent. Knows he doesn’t know. (note that NOT knowing is a step UP!)
3. Unconsciously competent. Knows how to do it, but doesn’t really know why it works.
4. Consciously Competent. Knows how to do it and knows why it works, so can increase it and validly teach it.
The secret to becoming a top listing agent? First become a really crappy listing agent. Become a really crappy one, then a bit less crappy, and so on. That is the actual path. There is no substitute for "stage time". None. Fail. Fail more and go right on doing it. Having the right attitude is probably more important than any other factor. A complete willingness to do whatever is necessary and to have the viewpoint that you are going to persist until you have arrived. Sort of like it mattered.